I was visiting a distant relative recently. The lady of the home looked visibly perturbed. After the preliminary enquiries, I could not resist asking her, what was
bothering her. As if waiting for an
outlet, she burst out with her woes!
“Oh! This Brahmanan (referring to her husband)
is a sandeha
prani (A doubting Thomas) He is
suspicious of anything and everything. He has gone to the neighbour`s
house to have a fight regarding a suspicion
he has about the neighbor`s involvement in
something missing from our house.
Living with him has become hell!”
When I was returning home and reflecting on what the lady had said, I realized that not
only suspicion but if four other demons
or
Pisasus as we call them in Tamil possess a human being then life can be
miserable for everyone around.
Apart from suspicion the other four demons according
to me are anger, jealousy, fear and dishonesty.
I know of a friend who is for ever an angry young man
(since he is over 60 now I will call him
an angry old man). He is bawling at
somebody or the other, for some reason or the other, all the time. Obviously he must be having a high blood pressure but it is surprising that he
has not had any heart attack so far– he only gives heart attacks to people who are victims of his shouting! Anger can
adversely vitiate the atmosphere surrounding any angry man.
Another friend of mine, a very well qualified
professional who did not do well in life, is for ever jealous of his friends
who have done better than him. He would
be constantly cribbing about others,
resulting in friends avoiding him. You can also find this kind of jealousy between
successful & unsuccessful siblings. The
problem gets aggravated when siblings get married and the daughters-in-law
enter a home. Resulting in strained relations between families.
Again if fear overtakes a man or woman in life, it can
be a disaster. I know of people who when
posed with a problem or a difficult situation will start imagining the worst case
scenario first. They are afraid of not
only taking bold decisions but generally have fear dominating their personality. Such people can be a negative force
on people surrounding them.
Some people are not only congenital liers but also are
dishonest to the core. I think lying and dishonesty go hand in hand. If a person is dishonest to himself you can
give up on such a person. One can never be sure of dealing with dishonest people because there is always a feeling of uncertainity and doubt in the
minds of people dealing with such people.
It is true that
all of us have suffered due to any one or more of the above demons taking
possession of us , sometime or the other.
Many of us have overcome such obsessions and got on with our lives. But there are many, who are unable to get off
the fundamental defect in their personality, Such people continue to suffer and
make people around them suffer!
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