BACK HOME, SWEET HOME!

A trip to Chennai is always hectic. The two weeks I spent from 25th September to 8th October were packed with activities. I went primarily to attend my new book launch on 27th September and the Shraddhams for my mother and father, scheduled for 4th & 7th October. Once in Chennai, I got roped into other activities.

I couldn't have asked for a better audience than the one I got for my book launch at Tag Centre, thanks to my good friend R T Chari. More than 180 people were in the hall, all senior citizens eager to know what I have written in my new book `Life in a Senior Citizen Home`. Not surprising that 80 copies were sold out at the meeting. Similar responses I got for my book at the 41 Club meeting held on 3rd October at the Cosmopolitan Club and the Sharan meeting on 4th October. Before the end of the two weeks, I found that the first print order was exhausted, and I had to order a reprint to supply my potential buyers in Nana Nani.

I also took the opportunity of my stay to visit my sister Prema, staying at Asiana Subham, who was turning 80 on 29th September. A small lunch get-together at a restaurant in Mahendra City. And good food with a surprise cutting of a birthday cake made her happy. On 2nd October, I attended the wedding reception of the daughter of Subramanian, an ex- employee of my company, Anugrah Madison. He had converted to Christianity to marry his lady love without changing his name. He surprised me by inviting me to hand over the first copy of a booklet on Saint `Emi Carmichael` to the priest who had conducted the wedding. She had inspired the family to name his daughter `Emi`.

The next day I had the privilege of witnessing a feature film on Radhakrishna Swamiji – Sai Padananda , an ardent devotee of Shirdi Saibaba who became a saint himself. His spiritual journey continued until his Mahasamadhi at the Sai Spiritual centre in Bangalore in 1980. As an ardent Sai devotee myself, I enjoyed watching the film, sponsored by Krish Kumar, the CEO of Pepsi. I thank my good friend Satyen Bhat, who was the Production Controller of the film, for including me in the invitation list for the premiere show of the film in the theatre at Prasad Labs.

Meeting family members and friends at Bessy, invading the Registrar's office a couple of times in connection with the redevelopment of my house in Sastri Nagar, and visiting my favourite temples kept me busy the rest of the days. A short time spent with Thavam and Bakthi, my grandchildren through my son Balaji and Tulse, was made memorable by 5-year-old Bakthi, chatting away nonstop using big words like `Camouflage` and explaining the meaning to me. I understand she has already become a voracious reader. So also Thavam, with whom I played a game of Chess and lost!

Out of the two weeks, for 8 days I enjoyed the wonderful hospitality of my brother Seshadri and his wife Mythily. Staying in their beautifully maintained home was a pleasure.

On 8th October, a Thursday, I had the privilege of being dropped at the Chennai airport by my elder daughter Kavitha, after the mandatory visit to Shirdi Saibabs temple in Tiruvanmiyur and picked up from the Coimbatore airport by my younger daughter Sowmya and her husband Sathya. I am blessed.

After suffering hot and humid weather in Chennai for two weeks, I was hoping to experience pleasant weather in Coimbatore. It was not to be. On landing at the airport at 3.15pm, the temperature was 34 °C, and it was sultry. Such weather is an unusual phenomenon for Coimbatore. The bad weather is continuing. Blame climate change! Fortunately, I am comfortable under the fan in my room at Nana Nani- my home, sweet home!

Dr Shanmugam Navaneethakrishnan -from Medicine to Devotional Lectures

  It was a programme based on the Ramayana by a talented group in the retirement community where I live. As part of the programme, I saw a gentleman giving a brief extempore discourse on Rama, quoting from the scriptures, and singing a couple of verses as part of his discourse. Unlike the popular concept of the person giving religious discourse dressed in traditional attire, the gentleman was wearing a trouser with tucked in half shirt with just a spot of Vermilion and Chandan on his forehead. I was intrigued. I found out that he was Dr Navaneethakrishnan, one of the residents of Nana Nani, Phase 4 ( NNP4)

I have come across many senior citizens, post-retirement, pursuing their passions for writing. Singing, drawing, dancing and many other creative pursuits. Some dedicate their services to voluntary organisations or even volunteer their services to their favourite temples. Some even go totally spiritual, learning the Vedas,  Sanskrit, Bhagavad Gita and many such spiritually oriented activities. Dr Navaneethakrishnan in Nana Nani, Phase 4 (NNP4) stands apart from these people. I decided to explore his life story.

Born in Madurai in 1942, Doctor was the seventh child in a family of seven brothers and three sisters. His father, Shanmugham Pillai, was a wealthy landowner with a charitable disposition. He was so popular for his generosity that two streets – 1^st Street and 2^nd Street – in the area where he lived in West Madurai were named after him. He passed away when Doctor ​Navaneethan was in the sixth standard, and it was his eldest brother, Rajagopal known as Kudai Veedu Rajagopal, a famous lawyer, who brought him up in life. He studied in two local schools in Madurai and  later did his Intermediate at the American College in Madurai. Though he had no interest in pursuing medicine as a career, it was his brother, impressed by his marks in the intermediate examination, who persuaded him to do it and guided him at every stage, until he got his admission to the MBBS course.

After earning his MBBS from Government Madurai Medical College in 1965, he did a truncated Master of Surgery (MS) course and got trained in plastic and thoracic surgery before specialising in gastroenterology at Madurai Medical College, focusing on surgical gastroenterology. Over time, he mastered laparoscopy, endoscopy, colonoscopy — all camera‑guided techniques that transformed treatment.

He joined the Tamil Nadu government health service in 1967  as an Assistant surgeon serving across the state, gaining invaluable exposure to community health. He retired as Professor of Surgery in 1995.

In 1971, he married  Nageshwari, who was then pursuing the MBBS course. Her father, Dr Shankar Ram, was running a nursing home in Alleppey and was a well-known doctor there. After marriage, she moved to Madurai and, over a period of time, Dr.Nageshwari became a well-known obstetrician and gynaecologist in Madurai.

After retirement from government service in 1995, Dr Navan​eethan joined Avvai Janaki Hospital​ (AJS) in Madurai, started by his brother in 1975 to provide free or heavily subsidised medical services, including surgeries to poor people living in the neighbourhood of their palatial home. In 1982, his father-in-law decided to close shop in Alleppey and joined AJS as a partner. Doctor Navaneetha​n used to visit this hospital as a consultant when he was in service, but became a full-time employee in 1995.

Between 1975 and 2020, when he decided to retire from his profession, he had performed more than 30,000 surgeries, including laparoscopic surgeries and liver, pancreatic and kidney surgeries, in addition to 1,20,000 endoscopies, both diagnostic and therapeutic, with a focus on poor patients. Among the scores of Awards and recognitions he has won during his long career, he values the Award for Meritorious Service given to him by the Indian Medical Association in 1987.

After the hospital was sold in 2012, outpatient services continued until 2021, in the name of Avvai Janaki Clinic. Even during the period of the pandemic, the clinic was active in taking care of the patients in the neighbourhood, totally free or at heavily subsidised fees. It was around this time that the serious health issues of his wife made him decide to completely retire from active service and look for a more relaxed, stress-free life​ outside Madurai. It was his sister-in-law Anandhi, who was already well settled in  Nana Nani Phase 4 since 2017, who persuaded the couple to move to Coimbatore and start a new life.

A doctor who used to work from morning 7.30 am to late at night suddenly found himself having a lot of free time. While he continues to spend time daily reading medical journals, making notes, and attending conferences online and offline to stay current, he developed a special interest in reading devotional literature for the first time in his life.

When I asked him if there was any indication of his interest in devotional literature during his student days or his ability to give ex-tempore talks, he said , “I had an aunt who served in an Ashram. She never married but totally devoted herself to a spiritual life as a devotee of Yoganantha Swami and attained yoga samadhi next to him in the Ashram. That must have influenced me to think of spiritual pursuits after retirement. As regards my ability to give extempore talks, I owe it to my Tamil teacher in the school who would encourage me to participate in elocution competitions and guided me at every stage of the preparations. He was the person who taught me the importance of giving a talk interspersed with quotes from scriptures. This training helped me even in my career as a professor of medicine”

Since settling in Nana Nani in 2021, he has found time to immerse himself in Tamil literature like Thevaram ( a collection of poems on Lord Siva by several Tamil saints), Tiruppavai ( songs on Perumal – Lord  of Tirupathi) by poet /saint Andal),  Thiruppugazh @ Divine Glory consisting of lyrics on Lord Muruga ( popular as  Karthikeya in the North) and Thirumandiram –  exposition of Shaiva Agamas in Tamil.   Beyond gaining knowledge of these scriptures, his lifelong habit of note‑taking enriches his study, enabling him to speak with clarity on spiritual topics at public gatherings.​ 

" I am blessed with a good memory. That helps, in giving extempore lectures, though I do meticulously prepare for every lecture,"  he said.

His first​ devotional talk was in 2024,  Mrs Malliga Sekar, a veteran of religious discourses in the community, asked him to give a brief talk focusing on the history of Madurai Meenakshi Temple at a programme where she was giving a discourse on the goddess Meenakshi. The success of this effort saw him being invited to give a talk on Rama, Muruga, Guruvayurappan ( Lord Krishna). Recently he gave an engrossing and informative talk on the significance of the two words, “ Thiruneerum Aintheluthum” (Nama Sivaya), which was highly appreciated by the audience. He is currently working on lectures on Rudraksham – a sacred five-faced bead representing Lord Shiva and life history of Pattinathar Swami, a revered 10^th Century Tamil mystic poet and Shaivite saint.  He has already memorized several songs from Pattinathar and Thirumandiram.

His new love for devotional  literatures is in addition to providing  consultations three days a week at Shanti Social Services Charity  Hospital in Singanallur in Coimbatore. On other days, he practices yoga for nearly an hour to maintain fitness. He is also popular among the residents in NNP4 as a doctor who can be approached by any resident for free advice and consultation at any time of the day. A man with a charitable heart, ​a trait inherited from his father, he also co-sponsors many religious events in the community.

​Dr Navaneethakrishnan is an outstanding example of a senior citizen who thinks out of the box to pursue a new interest in life and makes a success​ of it. Proving once again,  that age is no barrier for  pursuing old or new passions in life.

MORNING WALKS ON THE BEACH ROAD

  

A morning walk has become an integral part of my life​ for the last 52 years; if I miss walking even for a day, I feel miserable–as miserable as when I don’t get my mandatory morning coffee or am unable to get rid of the garbage of the previous day from my belly!

For 50 years, I used to go for a morning walk to Elliot's Beach Road, Besant Nagar, popularly known as Bessy, until I moved to Nana Nani in Coimbatore in Feb. 2024. Though it was just 10 minutes from my home, I would take the car up to Beach Road, park it in an allotted space, and then go for a walk!  Every morning it was a pleasure to see the rising sun and breathe in the fresh sea air. 

An interesting aspect of the morning walks used to be the sight of hundreds of people who came from all strata of society, belonged to different age groups​ ​- a melting pot of religions, regions, castes and communities.

 Single men and women, or groups of them, took brisk walks, many listening to music on their iPods. Some of them carried their mobiles, speaking loudly with their spouses, children, friends or business contacts, letting the whole world listen to their problems. A few of them appeared to be talking loudly to themselves while walking–you thought they were crazy, but then you realised that they were operating a hands-free mobile or using Bluetooth and talking to someone!

There were some who believed that they must stop and not only say ‘Hi’ to their friends but also discuss the day’s politics or weather, thus defeating the very purpose of having a brisk 30-minute walk! I had a friend who had learnt to tackle such unwanted intruders. If anyone stopped him to say ‘Hi’, he would continue to jump or jog on the spot until the conversation was over, and then continue​d his walk! Another friend used to walk with his palms together forming a ‘namaste’ behind his back. According to him, it was a healthy practice which he had perfected over the years; I tried it and failed! Then, there was this man who had a habit of walking with his left arm firmly glued to his side and the right arm swinging up and down during his brisk walk. There were a few who specialised in walking backwards, and others who practised yoga, meditation, pranayamam and Surya Namaskar while sitting on the parapet wall, bordering the walkers’ footpath.

During the walks, you could not miss the group of senior citizens, both men and women, sitting on the parapet wall having heated discussions. The women were invariably talking about problems with their daughters-in-law or maidservants, and the men were talking about politics or cricket. 

It was also funny to see some women in outlandish or ill-fitting clothes! There was an old lady, in her eighties, who was wearing loose-fitting jeans, a T-shirt, a ‘red’ pottu on her forehead and hair in plaits like a typical South Indian woman. Obviously, she was the mother of an NRI who had converted her from a nine-yard saree to jeans and T-shirts! Equally funny was a fat old man walking with a quarter (not half) pant with a T-shirt of some US University,  wearing a splash of vibhoothi and a pottu on his forehead!

The most beautiful thing about the morning walks was that nobody cared about your clothes or your peculiar walking habits. Most people were totally lost in their thoughts, like I would be most of the time, not noticing some friends who were passing by, wishing me.

As I have repeatedly said, the only thing I miss in Nana Nani in Coimbatore is the morning walks in Bessy followed by gup shup with two groups of friends- a fun group and a group which met over a cup of  Kumbakonam degree coffee at Velu's coffee, where the owner served customised coffee to everyone in the group.

Thirty minutes of walking and 60 minutes of gup shup were enough to ​keep me active for the day.

AN ESSAY CONTEST FOR FEMALE WRITERS IN TAMIL

After the last series of contests with Rani Weekly, this year Prabha Rajan Talent Foundation is sponsoring an Essay contest for women writers in association with Kalaimagal, the 95-year-old literary magazine in Tamil. I am forwarding the details of the contest published in the September 26 issue of the magazine. All female writers in  Tamil are encouraged to participate in this contest, held as a part of my (late)wife Prabha's Platinum Birthday commemoration

 

Book Review-

 GRAMMAR OF SILENCE

 by R.Seshasayee

 I recently read a fascinating novel - The Grammar of Silence by Mr R. Seshasayee,​ which is unputdownable. The novel has been written after extensive research into the social history of Tamil Nadu and is woven around the lives of three women- Dharma, Vinodhini and Mary who dare to claim their voice and space in a tyrannical patriarchal society. The episodes and the conversations featured in the novel give the reader the impression that the author had a ringside view of the events in the characters' lives. While it is easy to write a novel based on contemporary themes, the author has done a ​remarkable job in his efforts to capture the social history going back five centuries.  I agree with Prof. Venkatachalapathy's comments that `The novel succeeds admirably in getting historical details right without losing the throb and pulse of real people`. I also liked the way each chapter ended with a small twist, which makes the reader eagerly look forward to the next chapter. ​The author`s deep knowledge of classical music also helps in embellishing the narrative of the novel.  It is a must-read novel.

Seshayee, a chartered accountant and a senior business leader,  has held several important positions both in the corporate world, professional bodies and social institutions. He is currently the Chairman of Asian Paints Limited. A bilingual writer, he is the author of several short stories in Tamil which have appeared in leading Tamil magazines. His mother,  Vasumathy Ramaswamy, was a very popular writer in  Tamil. ` The Dance of Faith` was his first novel in English, published in 2022. After conquering the corporate world, Seshasayee is all set to conquer the literary world.

 

SHARAN - TOWARDS MUTUAL SUPPORT

The number of senior citizens with children settled abroad and those living alone because of the breakdown of the joint family system has multiplied manyfold. Correspondingly, the number of Senior Citizen Homes (SCHs) with excellent infrastructure and services for senior citizens has also grown. But what about those who cannot afford such expensive SCHs or those not in a position to move to an SCH for several reasons? Many of them lead an insecure and lonely life. What kind of support system do they have?

This is where informal groups of friends come together in many cities to provide help and support in times of need to such people. This story is about “Sharan”, started by a few friends in the Adyar neighbourhood in South Madras in 2008. Reflecting on its origin, Shri R.Shanker, one of the two founders with children living abroad, has this to say:

“During my walk in Indira Nagar, Adyar, one day, someone tapped me on the shoulder. It was my friend T S Venkataraman, whose children also live abroad. He talked about the need for a few friends living alone in the neighbourhood to come together to form an informal support system –to support the elders in their own homes, particularly during health emergencies, apart from offering any other help they need.”

Both friends decided to act on the idea with a few more friends. The result was the birth of Sharan, an association of senior citizens, which was registered under the Tamil Nadu Societies Act in 2010 with the primary objective of providing ‘Mutual Support’ to its members.

T S Venkataraman adds, “We initially faced difficulties in enrolling members, as many were sceptical about the need for one more association. Two well-written articles about Sharan in The Hindu supplement “Downtown” and a report in “Adyar Times” catalyzed to create more awareness about Sharan among residents of Adyar and adjoining areas. What differentiates Sharan from the other associations is its aim to promote among its members is, the spirit of mutual support; a desire and mindset in every member to help others in the group in times of need to the extent possible.

An ex-Sharanite, Hariharan, with help from his designer son, helped design the Sharan logo. The visual of multiple stretched hands represents the motto of Sharan: “Towards Mutual Support”. Another Sharanite, Dakshinamurthy @ Kavignar Thenmugan, wrote the lyrics for a special Sharan Anthem, which was set to music by Sharanites Radha Shanker and Usha Sethuraman.

Every meeting of Sharan starts with this anthem sung by a couple of Sharanites. Sharan is managed by a committee consisting of the President, Secretary, Treasurer and six members who are elected by the members and hold office for a period of two years. The first President of Sharan was Prof. V.Narasimhan. He was followed by T.R.Gopalan, R.S.Bakshi, and Dr.H.Raman. Since the beginning, Sharan has seen the Presidents and their Secretaries with the active support of the Management Committee members, doing a commendable job.

In order to provide opportunities for members to bond, Sharan regularly organises cultural and social activities. Within ten years since Sharan started, scores of activities covering lectures, visits to old age homes, outstation trips both within the country and abroad, Temple visits, celebration of all important festivals, musical evenings, workshops on health-related subjects and many other activities which would help members bond, were held regularly. On the personal level, any appeal or help sought by members through telephone calls or messages in the Sharan WhatsApp group was promptly addressed by members living close to the affected person.

Like all other associations, the COVID pandemic made Sharan go online. It was in July 2021, when the pandemic was at its peak, that K. Vishwakumar took over as the fifth President of Sharan with Raji Venkatesh as his secretary for a second term.

Raji says, “We conducted virtual meetings with Sharan members month after month during the first 7 months, from Aug 2021 to Feb 2022. In May 2021, the chanting of the Dhanwantri Mantra by a group of dedicated Sharanites was started for the good health of all members. I am glad to say that this online chanting is continuing even now every day without a break.”

It is interesting to note that a Dhanvantri big homam was performed on 17.12.25 at Viswakumar’s residence for the well-being and prosperity of all members and mankind.

When the physical meetings started again, Vishwakumar offered the air-conditioned meeting hall on the second floor of KOKILADVANI in Valmiki Nagar, which he owns, for FREE to Sharan to conduct all its meetings. He has also provided a basic sound system and a screen for use in meetings.

This hall can comfortably accommodate about sixty people. Since then, Sharan has had all meetings at this Hall. Only for special meetings like the AGM or the Founders Day celebrations, where the attendance is bigger, are outside venues considered. Expenses related to some of these meetings are sponsored by some members. This has helped Sharan save a considerable amount used for hiring a hall and paying for refreshments.

It was during Vishwakumar's tenure as the President that Sharan brought out a book commemorating the Pearl Anniversary (12th Anniversary) of Sharan. The book gives not only the History of Sharan but also a brief bio of its members. Though Smt Janaki Venkatraman and R. Parameshwaran have succeeded him as President, Vishwakumar, supported by his wife Geetha, continues to be a live wire Past President, extending every possible help to the new teams in their efforts.

Some of the new ideas introduced during the last three years include revival of Sharn E magazine ( a quarterly online magazine edited by Parameshwaran), formation of three distinct Whats App groups covering Sharan News, Sharan Greetings and Sharan entertainment to ensure that important information is not lost in the deluge of responses and forwards by members and the formation of special interest groups like cards, music, share market, chit chat, potluck etc. Besides programmes like `Chai Pe Charcha` and Breakfast meetings in members' homes, the President and Secretary also visit the homes of the new members and others who are having mobility problems, creating better bonding.

Sharan started with just 10 members. As of June 2026, it has 130 members. Interestingly, except for a few singles, most of the members are couples. Ladies take a more active part than men in all the activities. From an informal association of a few friends, Sharan has evolved into a very vibrant group which is run on professional lines while retaining the core principle of `Friendship`& `Mutual support’. It is a fact that in today's digital world, it is friends, more than family, who help in fighting loneliness among elders.

I would like to conclude this article with a quote from a member, Mrs Malthy Sinha,” Good friends are like stars; you don't always see them, but you know they are always there for you.”

(Latest issue of Madras Musings carries this article)

JURY DUTY- People Vs Ananya Sharma

A Crime drama  with a difference ( Review)

I went to see a Crime drama  ( not a murder mystery) this Sunday, primarily because my daughter Sowmya was donning a small role in it. Titled Jury Duty- People Vs Ananya Sharma, it was held at the Crimson restaurant in Broadway Mall in Coimbatore, in front of an audience consisting of friends and relatives of the performing artists. It was an  Immersive Theatre Experience, where the audience became jurors to decide whether the accused is Guilty or Not Guilty! Am told that it was a first-of-its-kind experiment by any theatre group in Coimbatore.

What impressed me was the enormous efforts put in by Director Chanda Katuria and her team to make the whole show feel authentic. Each table with members of the audience acting as jurors had a file containing the case details, with a writing pad & pens to make notes and placards featuring the words guilty, not guilty and not convinced.

 After each of the three acts, when the audience was asked to give their opinion, there was animated and serious discussion among the jurors!
With the prosecutor ( Somy Sridas) and the defence lawyer (Abhirami Ramesh) vigorously arguing the case and questioning the witnesses, there was not a dull moment in the play. All the artists, including Sowmya,  playing the role of a Housekeeper who is the jealous guardian of the murdered Businessman, lived their roles.  However, I would like to single out Mrs Sneha Ramesh ( mother of Abhirami ), who was going on the stage for the first time and gave a convincing performance.​ So also Kshitij Mathur, the lawyer, who had a long piece requiring phenomenal memory. In the film world, he would have got the title `One-take artist`

Though I had sacrificed both my pre and post-lunch siesta on a Sunday, I sat glued to the seat, thoroughly enjoying the ninety-minute show and the delicious lunch that followed. Congratulations to Chanda Katuria, of PLATFORMANCE specialising in  Drama, Theatre and Musicals, who had conceptualised, written & directed the play. Look forward to more such experiments from her.