To fantasize is to imagine something that you would like to happen. Another word for it is day dreaming.
`Day dreaming helps the mind unwind, connect
the dots and get creative` says a report in a leading daily. The author of the
report recommends that when children complain of boredom, instead of
overloading them with all kinds of
activities, give them time to
daydream. When they have nothing to do they are likely to indulge in `day
dreaming` about what they want to do in life ,
which is good for them . The same report also quotes Sabu Cyril, the
well known Art director; “ Day dreaming helped make me what I am today”.
All of us
have been fantasizing or day dreaming about
something or the other right from our childhood.
Living in a
chawl in Mumbai in my early years where
50 people shared two common toilets every morning ( what a nightmare!) I would dream of owning a
home with toilets for every member of
the family.Today I have a 6-bedroom independent
home with seven toilets ( including the one located outside
the house for servants)- The irony is
that we now have only three members living in the house.
As an adolescent
I would dream of cavorting with the beautiful actresses of the time. Later in
college, I would imagine that any girl who talked to me nicely was in love with
me – the number of one sided love
affairs I had would have been a record.
Ofcourse, like everyone else I was also
in search of an ideal wife who would satisfy all the features and qualities I
was looking for in my future partner. Since I could not find one on my own, I
dutifully married a girl of my parents’ choice. Over a period of time she
acquired all the qualities I wanted in
my wife ( I don`t know if I satisfied all her expectations) and we became an
ideal couple in the eyes of the society.
At seventy I
dreamt of taking up `Vanaprastha` as prescribed by our Sastras and lead a
carefree life without family responsibilities.
I imagined that by doing so I
would be allowing total freedom to my
wife so that she could enjoy doing the
things that she always wanted to do,
without me breathing down her neck. The sudden departure of my wife from this
world four years ago made me change my
plans. Today I fantasize that I am still living with my wife; feeling her presence in every room and every
object in the house she passionately looked after!
I find that age is no barrier for fantasizing. These
days in my dreams I go back forty years in time and imagine eating all the mouthwatering dishes I
enjoyed, indulge myself with drinks
that made me extra spirited,
travel to countries and places I have not yet visited, doing all the things
that I know I cannot do because of my
age and related health issues.
It is fun to
indulge in day dreaming and go after such dreams , irrespective of your age.
You will never get bored with life!
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