Sunday, November 30, 2025

Some tips for writing your memoirs & getting it Self Published

 It was my autobiography, `Courage My Companion`, published in 2009 when I was 67, that launched my new avatar as a writer/author. After I wrote a few chapters,  I had an opportunity to listen to  Mr S.Muthiah, a well known journalist, give a talk at a Madras Book Club meeting on the topic `Biography as History`- He talked about Biography as a social history- providing insights into life, happenings, values and mores of a city or a community or a profession at a certain point of time`. His talk gave my writing focus. It was Mr.Muthiah who discovered a writer in me after reading my autobiography and encouraged me to write articles on various topics. He also helped me in getting them published in the magazines that he was associated with as Editor. With his guidance, I evolved as an engaging writer who could win the hearts of his readers. I have published 13 books in 15 years, covering eight genres of writing. I thought I would share some tips about writing your memoirs or autobiography post-retirement or even earlier.

 

 I can hear you saying ` Oh, I am no good at writing`, ` My English is no good`, ` I have not maintained any diary or notes`.`I am not a famous person.` etc

 

Here I would like to share a quote from the autobiography of Sanjay Manjrekar, the cricket commentator and erstwhile member of the Indian Cricket team. In the Preface to his autobiography titled` Imperfect`, he says, “I feel we have an obligation to the next generation to chronicle our lives. Every individual lives a uniquely different life. He does not need to be famous to share his life experiences- Life stories are always interesting”.

 

As long as you have memories of your past, you can easily share your experiences by penning them on paper or typing them on your PC or laptop. Going down memory lane is always a fascinating experience.  What do we do when we meet old friends from school or college days? Don't we have great fun talking about old times? The same thing happens when you are writing your memoirs. Even if you have not maintained any diary or notes , don`t worry.

 

I started writing my autobiography the day after I retired as the CMD of my own advertising agency at the age of 65- without any diary, notes or records - purely depending on my memory. Though I generally suffer from poor memory I found that every time I sat down to write, the events and characters would float in front of me like a film. Going down memory lane was not only fun but it was also a stress buster and therapeutic for me.

 

Here are some  approaches to writing your memoirs

 

1.The most popular is a linear narrative of your life- starting from your birth to the current in a sequential manner combining both personal and your professional lives.  While recording personal life go into your family history- go back by a couple of generations if you have the information.

 

2. Record only your personal life or professional life.

         

 3.The third approach is to  record interesting anecdotes from different periods of your life. You can always sequence them later. Anecdotes  make  a memoir interesting. Recall as many interesting anecdotes you can remember.

4.Write your memoirs in the language you are comfortable with. English or Tamil or any language you feel proficient

5.     Write regularly- Devote sometime every day or every week  for writing. Don`t worry about being perfect in  English or in the chosen language.  Just record your thoughts as they are flowing in your mind. You can always get your writings corrected by a friend or an expert in the language that you are writing.

6.     While you are writing, you can share drafts with some  near and dear ones for their comments, which can help in improving the content.

7.     If you are writing In English you can download an app called ~Grammarly` and run through your drafts using the app to correct the mistakes you have made. It not only helps in correcting grammatical and other mistakes but also helps by providing alternative ideas for expressing your thoughts.

                                

                                                Self Publishing

Having  got  the manuscript of your memoirs ready , the next stage is to get it published. Getting your  book published through a publisher is a  very difficult proposition. No publisher is interested in the story of a common man.

 

If you have the resources go for self publishing Thanks to self-publishing and print-on-demand facilities today every other writer is able to become a published author. Nowadays, Self publishing  is an accepted norm in the world of writers/authors. It is also an ideal solution for those who want to see their writings in book form.

 

Today Digital printing offers you the facility of print on demand which allows you to print limited copies at a time. You can print anywhere from 5 copies to 200 copies or more.  If  you don't  want to sell the copies, decide on the number of people you want to give the book for free and decide on the quantity. 

 

Approximate costing – 100  pages- 100 copies  can roughly cost you about Rs12,000 to Rs 15,000 depending on the size of the book  which will have the cover page printed in colour and the rest of the inside pages in black and white. There are printers who specialize in this form of printing. I normally use the services of Compuprint based in Chennai.

If you are more ambitious  and feel  you can sell your books it is important to get  your book reviewed by  some celebrity friends  or a  couple of publications. Use the positive responses you get from readers to promote the book online. Promote the book shamelessly because while the Publishers help you initially, after sometime they lose interest  in your book.


Today social media ( email, facebook, twitter, Linked in etc) offers you wonderful opportunities to reach your message to a large audience virtually at no cost.

 

If you are selling the book, Ensure that your books are available through online- Amazon.in, flipkart etc.

 

There is one more alternative. With the increasing tendency of youngsters to read books online, Instead of printing the book you can share the book in its final form as a PDF file. You save a considerable amount incurred in printing books in physical format. However, there is a great joy in holding the first copy of your books in print form- almost akin to holding a new born baby. I would recommend printing at least 50 copies of the book, in physical form.

 

Remember age is no barrier for writing a memoir, novel, collection of poems, short stories or essays. Above all, once you are determined to be a writer/author pursue the dream relentlessly.  You will succeed.

With the experience of publishing 13 books in 15 years covering eight genres of writing I have motivated 20 friends to self publish their books.  I will be happy to offer my services, pro bono, to anyone needing advice on self publishing their books. My email id: rvrajan42@gmail.com

 

 

Saturday, November 22, 2025

Useful tips for choosing a Senior Citizen Home

 Based on my talks with residents of many senior citizen homes and also my own experience of staying in one of them for the last 20 months, I would like to make the following observations for the benefit of those who are planning to move into Senior Citizen Homes (SCHs).

 Judging by  the good times that many of the residents  are having, I would say it is an option worth considering by people who have reached the end of their useful lives and who are financially independent, to spend their twilight years in peace and contentment

 It is no more a stigma on the children if their parents voluntarily choose to stay in senior citizen homes which provide them the necessary security, independence, comfort and the company of new friends with similar backgrounds. With the joint family system vanishing, replaced by nuclear families with space and other constraints, children also can look at well run SCHs to  keep their parents happy. SCHs are a big boon for children who are settled abroad and constantly worry about the safety and security of their  parents living alone in  cities.

 Once they have decided to move to a Senior Citizen Home (SCH) they should visit  a few SCHs and try to stay in their guest houses for a few days  or even rent out a flat for a short period,to get a feel of the place. They also must talk to some residents to find out what they think of the facilities on offer and their satisfaction level before they make up their mind. It might be a good idea to retain one`s own home for some time and sell it only when one is fully satisfied with the SCH.

 Many new SCHs offer five-star facilities and are expensive. It is important to choose a facility which satisfies one`s basic needs and is available at a reasonable cost. One`s choice of food & the city where one wants to settle down can also be determining factors in selecting the Home.

Most of the homes keep increasing their maintenance charges and meal charges from time to time because of escalating costs. Residents must be prepared to face this contingency. For those with fixed incomes, such Homes are not recommended.

 Food is  a major issue in the SCHs. One has to be mentally prepared to adjust one`s tastes to the menu on offer. Coimbatore, the most popular city for SCHs, where most of them offer only vegetarian meals and that too the South Indian variety. Though North Indian dishes may be offered on some days, do not expect them to be of the same quality that one is used to.

Availability of in-house medical facilities is also important. Though every Home promises such a facility check out if they if they are capable of providing immediate response from staff  on  duty offering First Aid and in case of an emergency, transport the affected residents to the nearby hospital in their own Ambulances.

 Better to go for Homes offered by well-known groups. They have the resources and commitment to run the facilities efficiently because their reputation is at stake. Homes started by individuals or private parties are generally not reliable.

 If you have children living in other cities, go for a two-bedroom facility so that there is a place for them to stay whenever they visit you. For those who can afford they can consider spacious Villas which many Homes offer

Many  Senior Citizen Homes help get full-time or part-time attenders for those who have mobility problems or those who are bedridden recuperating from a surgery, at an extra cost. There are Hospices like `Atulya Senior Care` , with  branchess in many cities, that take complete care of bedridden residents needing constant medical and other attention. Atulya is expensive. However, it is an ideal solution which can be considered by working couples who have old and infirm parents who need constant help and attention.

 If one wants to enjoy one`s stay in SCHs, it is important to be friendly with other residents. Remember that more than one`s own children it is the friends who make one`s life interesting in old age. Besides, if one is friendly with the able-bodied residents in the facility, they become one`s support group and caregivers in case of emergencies until the family members come and take over.

  I would like to conclude this article by quoting the words of a resident of a SCH,

The two essential needs of every individual apart from roti, kapda and makhan are freedom and friendship. Both these crucial requirements for healthy and happy living are assured in the life of  elders in Senior Citizen Homes”