Saturday, June 25, 2022

The Table Manners

The other day I was watching the movie `The Great Indian Kitchen` in Malayalam on OTT. The movie beautifully captures the travails of a typical Indian Housewife in a  joint family totally deprived of her independence and treated like a slave. This article is not a review of the movie but to share with you my experiences with Table manners ( at the dining table) that the movie deals with. The heroine is seen annoyed with the mess that her husband and father in law make around  their dinner plates while eating their meals every day.

I am also known for the mess I make around my plate when eating my meals at home. I also break  other table manners expected of an educated person. Like the habit of lifting the entire stainless steel plate with rims, filled with some rice and  rasam and consuming the same with relish. Always  accompanied by the sipping sound while I consume the  liquid in instalments. My son who sometimes accompanies me during lunch time looks at me with disdain when I indulge in this despicable to him but pleasurable  activity for me.  I think I picked up this habit from my father. He used to perform the act not only while consuming rasam rice but also while having the buttermilk rice ( More sadam)

Because of this habit I indulge in at home I prefer  to eat my meals alone, like my father used to. Like my father I also believe in having my meals at the appointed time and not wait for others to join. I also like to have my meals seated at the table and helping myself with dishes kept on the table. Unlike what many youngsters do these days. They help themselves with the items required on a   plate and eat their meals while watching their favourite TV programmes or reading a book.

My mother always used to stress the importance of respecting the `Dhanya Laxmi` also known as `Anna laxmi`,  the goddess who gives us our food - while eating our meals. She would insist that the children concentrate on the food they eat and respect the Anna Laxmi.  Otherwise, according to her, they might invite the wrath of the goddess. Modern day kids exposed to the world of internet with information on their finger tips are bound to reject such superstitions.

Like the husband in the movie I also follow table manners when I am eating in restaurants or at public functions. I learnt about  table manners the hard way.  It happened in the first  year of my job at Clarion McCann in 1966.  At an office dinner hosted by my boss lady for the staff at her luxurious flat in the upscale Malabar Hills in Bombay.

Though I was careful with my drink, when the dinner was announced I could not resist the spread of food on the dining table. While I was busy tucking away the food on my plate, enjoying every morsel, I found somebody pushing me to a corner. It was my boss lady  who quietly admonished me  for embarrassing her in front of her guests. I did not know what wrong I had done.  Later, I learnt that my fault was that I ate with my hands and was busy licking the food sticking out of  my fingers as I would do at home. I had not used the forks or spoons available on the table.  I felt humiliated. I quickly sneaked out of the house and all the way to my home in Matunga I was sure that I would be sacked the next morning and my dream career in advertising would come to an abrupt end. Fortunately nothing of the sort happened except that I was never invited to any official dinner for the next one year! By which time thanks to a  very close friend  in the office  I had  not only learnt table manners but also other basic etiquettes of life.

 

I have come a long way since that unforgettable incident,  attending hundreds of formal and informal dinners not only in India but also abroad participating in  seminars and conferences over the years. But even today I am not comfortable attending the  three  or four course formal dinners in five star facilities where the liveried bearers change the plates every time you finish one course.

 

I realize that I have never been able to totally get rid of the mindset of a boy from a  middle class family from the chawls of Bombay.

Sunday, June 12, 2022

My first holiday after the pandemic.

After several years I went on an extended holiday. To be precise it was a ten-day holiday in Coimbatore coinciding with the `Palkachi`  ( Milk Boiling) ceremony that my daughter Sowmya had scheduled for 9th June at her new home in Air Force Naval Housing Enclave in Ganapathy.  Her family is shifting from Bangalore to CBE  in August. I went ten days earlier because I wanted to meet my old friends and a few close relatives in CBE. It was my first holiday after the pandemic.

Coimbatore is the city where I learnt the true meaning of friendship when I was active in Round Table. I also met a few friends living in popular Senior Citizens Homes to get first-hand information about life in such Homes. With pleasant weather for ten months in a year, Coimbatore has become THE place for  Senior Citizen Homes mainly for the upper-middle and upper-class citizenry. Since I am not confident about traveling alone these days, my walking friend and a fellow Rotarian, Balu (Balasundaram), who has business interests in Tiruppur and a home in Coimbatore volunteered to accompany me to CBE and back by air. I am glad that I accepted Balu`s invitation to stay at his beautiful home in CBE. It was a five-star comfort that  I experienced. The variety of tasty food (especially the egg dosa) that I consumed has made me put on 3 kgs. in ten days. I was overwhelmed by the wonderful hospitality of Balu and his wife Kala during my stay with them.

 I also stayed at the Vedantha Satsang, a new senior citizen Home in Kovaipudhur as a guest of my schoolmate Raju, who has a villa in the complex. The facility is new and did not have many people staying there. The two-day stay at this facility gave me a practical idea about what it feels like to live in such a facility. I also visited a few other Homes to talk to my friends and a few other inmates.  (Await another article from me on the subject based on my talk with inmates of these Homes).

While in CBE I did not miss visiting the big  Shirdi Sai Baba temple on the two Thursdays I was there. During the stay, I also managed to find the time to read two books and finished proofreading my interview-based articles in Madras Musings to be featured in a book ( my 12th in 13 years)that  I am planning to publish to coincide with my 80th birthday in August. On the whole, it was a memorable holiday, totally relaxing.

After enjoying the salubrious weather in CBE I returned to Chennai to face the unbearable heat that has been scorching the city for several days. It feels like  landing  in hell after staying in a heaven for 10 days. It is quite possible that I may shift to CBE to a Home when I decide not to be a burden on my children in my old age! The weather in Coimbatore is certainly a factor that is likely to influence my choice!

Friday, June 10, 2022

Kalaimagal, the literary Tamil monthly turns 90

In a new initiative to cater to the thousands of its members spread across Tamil Nadu who are more comfortable listening to the lectures in Tamil, Madras Management Association has also started having meetings with Tamil speakers . The  third  speaker in the series was  Kizhambur Sanakrasubramanian, the fourth editor of the 90 years old Tamil literary magazine Kalaimagal .  A unique magazine which  has appeared, month after month, without fail in the last nine decades. Even during the lockdown period, it appeared in digital form to delight its loyal  readers. In the context of many other Tamil magazines disappearing because of market pressures including Covid , it is  a remarkable achievement indeed.

The idea of  starting a Tamil literary magazine was conceived  at a meeting of a few Tamil scholars at the home of  P.N.Appuswamy in Chitrakulam in Mylapore.  U V Swaminathan  ( U Ve Sa ) popularly known as Tamizh Thatha,  who was in the meeting, not only offered to edit the magazine but  also gave the name `Kalaimagal` for the magazine. R. Narayanaswamy Iyer of Madras Law Journal  fame who was in the group offered to  print and publish the magazine. A legacy  his son and grandson have carried forward  for over eight decades.  Five years ago  the publishing rights were bought over by P T T Rajan, the current publisher of the magazine.

Located in the office of Madras law Journal on 83, Munda Kanniamman Street the first issue  of the magazine came out in January,1932.The annual subscription was fixed at Rs 4 within the country and Rs 5 for readers abroad. It had literature, fine arts, science, children’s stories and pages exclusively meant for women. From 1500 copies in the beginning,  it grew to over one lakh copies during mid sixties and seventies.

 

The  magazine`s  first editor U.V.Swaminathan, was a  Tamil scholar who spent his life time in collecting rare palm leaf writings of  Tamil Classics known as  sanga Ilakkiam ( Sangam Literature) and got them published at his own expense. But for his initiative the Tamil world would never have got to know about classics such as Silappadikaram, Manimekalai etc. He contributed one article for every issue and the value and esteem of the magazine grew in abundance. He was the editor of Kalaimagal from 1932 to 1938

 

He was followed by K.V.Jagannathan (Ki Va Ja) another Tamil scholar/writer who was the editor for a record 50 years from 1938 to 1988. He  began his career in Kalaimagal as deputy editor while continuing to serve the Tamil savant in his research and writing work.  Ki Va Ja became famous not only for the excellent commentaries he wrote about many Tamil classics but also for his wit and humour as a popular writer/orator. He was also responsible for compiling popular old  proverbs and  folk songs  in Tamil.

 

 The foundation for the high literary standards that the magazine has been maintaining were laid by these two editors. S.V.Ramani, who followed him was the editor for seven years. Ramani maintained the standards set by his predecessors and ran the magazine with its inherent strength.

 

Kizhambur Sankarasubramanian, grand-nephew of the doyen of Tamil journalism, A.N. Sivaraman, took over as the editor from Ramani is the fourth  editor.  He  has been editing  Kalaimagal for the last 26 years.

 

 “ I have been trying  to continue the tradition established by my predecessors by publishing a top quality literary magazine with right values- no  film news, no politics , no juicy stories or no cover pictures featuring attractive women. There is no place for sensuous or sensational stories in Kalaimagal..  We have managed to survive without any of the above  serving our  40,000 loyal  readers .I hope to continue with this policy of honesty and integrity  for another ten years until we celebrate the century mark”

 

During the course of his talk Kizhambur shared some interesting information  pertaining to Kalaimagal.

Rajaji, the first governor general of our country was a regular subscriber of the magazine. The magazine still has a copy of the first receipt issued to him preserved for posterity.

When the well known writer Kalki Krishnamurthy and Sadasivam wanted to start a magazine called `Kalki` they approached the Kalaimagal management to help them with the printing of their magazine The first issue of Kalki was brought out with the expertise provided by the printing team of Kalaimagal

There was close connection between Kalaimagal and   Bharathi the poet. Though the magazine was started after Bharathi`s demise, a complete collection of his rare  works compiled by Periaswamy Thooran was serialized in Kalaimagal for the first time. The magazine also managed to publish  the first and original poem written by Bharathi addressed to the Maharaja of Ettayapuram using the block making facility of the time. He had signed the poem with his name `Ilasai Subramaniam`- Ilasai referring to Ettayapuram. It appeared as a part of an article written specially for Kalaimagal by Viswanathan a cousin of Bharathi which was published in one of the issues in 1978.

Though almost all well known Tamil writers have been  featured in the magazine, Kalaimagal is proud of the fact that well known Tamil writers of yester years like Akilan, Anutthama, Kamala Sadagopan and Laxmi Rajaratnam had their first stories published in Kalaimagal. Popular writers of today like Indira Sounder Rajan and Devi Bala and many others also had started their writing career with Kalaimagal. Short stories in Kalaimagal had its own stamp of grade and status. One had to write in Kalaimagal to prove not only his or her writing skill but also qualitatively satisfy the readers. It almost

became mandatory for writing in other magazines. “Have you written short stories in Kalaimagal?”

was the question the writers had to face from the readers and the editors then. The Kalaimagal office was the forerunner in publishing novels and collections of short stories in book form.

 

Kizhambur also fondly recalled his close association with Abdul Kalam,  the people`s President of India and his several interactions with him regarding Tamil literature. Many of Kalam`s essays and poems in Tamil appeared regularly In Kalaimagal. Kalam  even  wrote  his first short story for a special Diwali issue of the magazine, which was well received. On Kizhambur`s request Kalam  visited Channai to address 500 students selected from 10 corporation schools where he spent more than the scheduled time to answer all the interesting questions posed by the inquisitive students.

Though the magazine never published political news /views , a column tilted `Delhi Thabhal` written  by the well known  political analyst of his time,  K.Srinivasan used to regularly appear in Kalaimagal when Ki Va Ja was the editor of the magazine. Srinivasan, in one of his columns had recorded an interesting anecdote involving the veteran congressman  Kamaraj.

Once at a meeting of congressmen presided over by Jawaharlal Nehru he requested Kamaraj who was the President of the party  to address the audience consisting mostly of Hindi speaking people. Kamaraj, who could talk neither in English nor Hindi was at a loss for words. He decided  to speak in Tamil. After speaking for 3 minutes when he sat down there was a thunderous applause from the audience. Surprised at the response Srinivasan who was  reporting the meeting asked the gentleman sitting  next to him why he was clapping when he didn`t understand  Tamil. The neighbour responded, ` Kamaraj is a great  leader. He must have spoken only good things. It is the man who matters and not what he spoke`

Kizhambur`s  reverence for the first two editors is  palpable. ` There is a chair used by Ki Va Ja when he was the editor. I always felt I didn`t deserve  to sit in the same chair that Ki Va Ja occupied. Every morning before I start my day in the office I make floral offerings to the photograph of Ki Va Ja,  placed on the chair,  located  in a prominent corner of the office. I have followed this routine right from the day I joined Kalaimagal as its editor.`

Another interesting  information  is that motivated by the outstanding contributions of the two legendary editors to Tamil literature,  Kizhambur, a popular orator in Tamil,  wanted to do something which will leave his mark in the world of Tamil Literature. He decided  to give a talk  for seven hours continuously, giving his commentary on  the three parts of Tirukkural consisting 1330 short  couplets composed by the Tamil sage Tiruvalluvar, on virtue, wealth and love. The first event took place in Chennai in front of several Tamil scholars. The second talk was given at  National  College , Trichy aimed at College students and the third one  at the school in Tirunelveli where Kizhambur  studied. This effort of Kizhambur is now  featured in the  Guinness book of Records. Kalaimagal   followed this up with the publication of a book containing selected commentaries by various scholars on Tirukkural compiled by him.The first copy of the book titled ` Tirukkural Kalanjiam` was received by the then governor of Tamil Nadu, Shri B. Purohit at a special event organized  at the Raj Bhavan in 2018.

`Kannan` the second  magazine published by the group was devoted to children. It was also the launch pad for many aspiring young  writers in Tamil  like Charukesi. It  was launched in 1940 and discontinued in 1967  for commercial reasons.

 

The Kalaimagal management also published `Manjari` the only monthly digest in Tamil modeled on the lines of Readers Digest both in terms of size and contents. This magazine launched in 1947 also had continuous run for 75 years before the publishing rights were given to another party last year.

The annual Diwali Specials of Kalaimagal are also very popular to date among its readers

P T T Rajan the current publisher of Kalaimagal  is a young man who is keen to leave footprints of the magazine on the sands of time so that the younger generation will have an idea of the evolution of the modern day Tamil literature. He along with Kizhambur have initiated  an  ambitious project to digitize all the issues of Kalaimagal for posterity. I wish them all success in their effort!