Wednesday, November 18, 2020

A dignified life without responsibilities

My mother-in-law, a highly independent woman who died at the ripe age of 89, spent the last six years of her life in a senior citizen’s home in Chennai. Her NRI son took  a decision to keep her in the Home in spite of my offer to look after her in my home. Just to make her feel that we still  care for her I would bring her home every month for a week`s stay. One day she told my driver “I don’t know why my son-in-law brings me here  every month. I am very happy in the Home with a lot of new friends to talk to. Here I spend the whole day only watching TV or listen to music. Everybody is so busy”

 

I also met a few others  from that Home, many of whom were NRI parents who had sold their properties or rented out their homes to settle in this well-run senior citizen’s Home Here they not only made new friends but also indulged in hobbies for which they had no time earlier. Even the few who felt bad initially began to enjoy the new environment over a period of time. All of them agreed it was a comfortable life without the day-to-day responsibilities and problems they had faced when living alone. Some of them had children living in the same city, and yet  they preferred to move into a senior citizen’s home as they did not want to burden their children with the responsibility of looking after them on a daily basis. With the joint family system breaking down and nuclear families being the norm these days, old people often find themselves being a nuisance value to their children. There are also cases of old people who don’t have the energy or mind set to look after their grandchildren who have office-going parents. Obviously, the old values are changing, with people, both young and old, becoming more self-centred.

 

Having visited a few such Homes and seen the good times that many of the residents are having, I would say it is an option worth considering by people who have reached the end of their useful lives; especially those  who are financially independent and wish to spend their twilight years in peace and contentment. I am sure residents of the Dignity Lifestyle Retirement Township in Neral managed by the Dignity Foundation will vouch for this. There are any number of such  Senior Care Homes which have come up across the country. Coimbatore in Tamil Nadu, which pioneered the idea, has scores of such Homes catering to middle and upper middle income families  at affordable prices.

 

It is no more a stigma, either on the parents or the children, if elders prefer to stay in elder care homes where they  are  assured of a dignified life without responsibilities!

( Appeared  in the latest issue of Dignity Expressions published by Dignity Foundation)

Sunday, November 15, 2020

A DIWALI GIFT WITH A DIFFERENCE

Diwali time is also the time to eagerly look forward to reading  the  Deepavali  Malars ( Diwali special issues ) from many Tamil magazines. A phenomenon unique to South India  , these special issues are popular among old timers even today.( I am not sure if  youngsters read them). During the period I was heading my ad agency Anugrah Madison, I decided to present  the staff  in all our clients` offices, especially  those with whom the agency was interacting on a daily basis,  a set of Diwali Malars of the year as the agency`s Diwali gift. The  Senior most  in the client`s office would  get a set of four different Malars, the middle  level  three and the junior most would get two Malars. The  gesture was very much appreciated by the recipients  of the gift. One particular year due to budget constraints we decided not to send any Diwali gifts. There was a hue and cry from many clients. It seemed every year the Diwali Malars were eagerly looked forward to by the spouses and other  seniors in the families receiving the gift. It is then I realized the value of Diwali Malars as a leisurely reading material among the seniors.

 I am continuing this interesting idea in a different format post retirement. Every Diwali  I buy all the Diwali Malars available in the market. After browsing through them,  I make sets of two Malars each and distribute them among identified Octogenarian relatives and friends , who eagerly look forward to this gesture from me . I give them  two weeks time to read the Malars. After they finish reading one set I replace them with another set. The rotation goes on until they finish reading all the Diwali  Malars. The whole process takes three to four months bringing immense joy to the identified people.  Seeing them happy makes me happy! My biggest reward? The blessings I receive from all of them. As I have repeatedly said `Divine grace and Elder`s blessings` keep me going in life!

 

Wednesday, November 11, 2020

Announcing the arrival of my 13th baby.

Holding the first copy of every new book I have published  is like holding a new born baby. I am sure other authors will vouch for this feeling. After fathering three  children and authoring nine other books I am thrilled to announce the release of my 10th book in 11 years- A novella titled `DURGA NIVAS – Biography of a building`. A dream project I concieved  two  years ago but could deliver it only now.

The book will take the readers into the tiny one-room tenements (kholis) of Durga Nivas  a fictional chawl in Matunga, Central Bombay; home to a potpourri of people from different parts of India, who live cheek-by-jowl, sharing joys and sorrows, much like the diverse members of a large joint family. You will get  a glimpse into  the  lives and fortunes of nine families to whom the first floor of Durga Nivas was home right from the 1940s into the 21st Century. You can also  listen in to the conversations of the tenants as they wait in queue every morning for their turn at the common toilets where  many a reputation is made or smashed at the ‘Loos Talk’! Together with the walls of the venerable building, you will  witness the whole gamut of human emotions –that play out in Durga Nivas over the years.

And, as a new generation tries its wings and flies out of the proverbial nest, the hustle and bustle, the fights, tears and laughter of normal life in the chawl are reduced to memories. But some former tenants of Durga Nivas find that life is full of surprises, and the past has a habit of catching up. 

The book exemplifies  Bombay's can-do and daring spirit and is based  on my experience of living in a chawl in Bombay for the first 26 years of my life.

 The book is designed by Compuprint  and published by Creative Workshop, Chennai.

 Priced at Rs 290/- the book is available on Amazon & Flip Cart and also at Odessey Book Shop in their Adyar, Thiruvanmiyur and Coimbatore branches.

 Those in Chennai can order a copy with  me on rvrajan42@gmail.com or 9840392082. I will bear the courier charges.

 Please note that the entire proceeds from the sale of the book will go towards the activities of Prabha Rajan Talent Foundation(PRTF) I started in memory of Prabha who herself was an accomplished writer of short stories in Tamil.

Thursday, November 5, 2020

My Safire Connection

During all my official travels to Madras,as a young executive,  I always felt that I belonged to the city. I dreamt of settling down in Madras, post retirement. I never imagined that it will happen when I was only 32. Madras welcomed me with open arms and in the last 46 years it has seen me grow not only professionally but also as a human being . Among the many interesting  memories I have of the city, my brief association with Safire theatre complex stands out. Before I elaborate on my story a few words about  the theatre.

 Started by the Veecumsee Family, the well known jewellers of the city, the Safire Theatre complex was India's first largest multi-theatre complex located on Mount Road (now Anna Salai) close to the old Gemini circle. The theatre complex was being  run by Mr. H.V. Shah & his sons. It was the idea of the eldest son Yashwant to start the multi-theatre complex and also Silver Sands — the first-ever Beach Resort in the country. The complex was an imposing building with parking space for about 40 cars. It consisted of three screening halls, viz. Safire, Blue Diamond, and Emerald.  Safire, the biggest with a seating capacity of 0ver 1000,  was also  the first 70mm theatre in India which opened to public in 1964. with the screening of Cleopatra. Many other block busters of the time followed. Blue Diamond had the unique concept  of continuous shows where you could buy a ticket in the morning  and stay inside the theatre throughout the day watching  the same film several times. It is another matter that most of the visitors, ,young and old couples,   came to the  Blue Diamond  not  to see the movie but to indulge  in amorous pursuits in  the dark, air conditioned comforts of the theatre. It was also patronized by  salesmen who were looking for a air conditioned resting place between appointments.

 

I came to Madras in 1974, to take  up a job with Grant Kenyon & Eckhart as the Resident Director. Since Grant was handling the advertising for both the Theatre complex and the Beach Resort, we were given an office space in the second floor so that Grant could be at the beck and call of the client. It  was a long corridor located adjacent to the projection room with two rooms at the far end of the office.  While the administrative offices of the theatre complex  were located in the basement, the first floor was used as the city office of Silver sands  and the third floor was occupied by one of the family members running his own business.

 

My  introduction to Safire happened under unusual circumstances.I was to relieve HW, a pipe smoking Anglo-Indian, who was always suited and booted and spent more time in the Madras Gymkhana Bar than in the office. My  boss Vijay Menon from Bombay  who had come down to Madras  to install me in my new job, asked me to report at Safire theatre, at 9.00 am on a particular day. Instead of taking me straight into the office, Vijay asked me to wait in the Foyer of the theatre, as HW had not been told that he was being sacked! I was feeling bad and embarrassed.  After waiting for nearly 30 minutes, which seemed like eternity, Vijay took me  and introduced me to HW. Surprisingly he  was all geniality personified, as the sacking had come as no surprise to him. He seemed to be happy that the management finally had the courage to relieve him for non performance!

 

I was shocked beyond words to see the items on display on the table and walls of the Manger`s  office. Apart from finding several objects arousing sexuality, the walls were full of nude model pictures, used in the annual calendars which the agency  had produced for the liquor division of EID Parry.  While going around the office I was intrigued to find  a room behind the manager’s office with an attached bathroom, a cot and few other fixtures required for living. Later I found out that the multipurpose room was used by HW for his nefarious activities. Whenever he had a big fight with his domineering wife, who was obviously always questioning him on his philandering ways, he would spend the night in the office with some company. The facility was also offered to friends in need..

 

As we came out of the office, I told Vijay that I was not moving into the office without performing a puja It was almost a week before I actively took over the reins of an empty office with hardly any business. My tryst with both Safire &  Madras  had begun.

 

 

. Every morning I would come to the office by 9.30 am.. After working in a big office in Delhi  with a large  staff, it was quite depressing to be seated behind a 25 year old mahogany table (which  had multiple drawers  on both sides)  and find that I had no work to do!.Then it dawned on me that the challenge of the job was to revive an almost dying  Madras branch of Grant.and  that I had to start building the business from scratch. Based on a plan of action I started calling on prospective clients. In the next two years I had brought in enough business to ensure that the branch was self sustaining and I would retain my job! As the business grew I had to employ additional staff.  I decided to allocate the rear room to the copywriter, whom I had hired  so that he could work peacefully. But I didn`t realize it would disturb my peace because every visitor   to meet the copywriter had to pass through my room!

 

 

In the first year,  since the job did not keep me busy throughout the day, to kill time I would stand at the landing of the floor watching the traffic on Anna Salai through the huge glass panels  or find myself in the projection room of Safire Cinema, watching the movies through the glass panels. This was possible  thanks to the friendly Projectionists. There were two huge projectors. Watching the Projectionists shift from one projector to another, when the reel in one projector got over  was fascinating. It was done so seamlessly that the audience would not be aware of the change. The privilege of working in a theatre complex also gave me an opportunity to see block busters on the first day itself because of my closeness to ‘Appunni’, the manager of the theatre.  A diminutive,  balding,  Malayalee who would be a most sought after man during the first few weeks of any film release. Those days good  films ran for 25 weeks or more. Thanks to my closeness to Appunni, sometimes I could also oblige friends with tickets even for the  so called houseful shows in Safire.

 

While Emerald with a seating capacity of 300 seats featured Tamil & Hindi Films, Blue Diamond with a seating capacity of just  150 specialized in featuring old films both Indian and foreign. Sometimes when I was early to work, I would see couples hanging around waiting for the booking counter of Blue Diamond  to open. It was shocking to see some of them coming out of the theatre only around 2 or 3 pm when I was leaving in my car to visit some client. While they looked fresh waiting in the queue, they looked exhausted with crumpled dresses when they came out looking sheepishly around to ensure that they did not encounter any familiar faces. It was indeed a sight to behold! It was not unusual for me to catch some known faces indulging  in such acts.  To save them the embarrassment  I would act as if I had not noticed  them.

 

Safire cinema, like many other big cinema halls of the time, had Family rooms ( Boxes) above the balcony area which was patronised by rich and famous people including popular film stars. Many of them would invariably keep the Manager informed in advance of their visit  so that adequate security arrangements were in place for them. They would  come a little late and leave before the film ended  to avoid being mobbed by the crowd. Thanks to our connection with Appunni we would be tipped about the visit of   a celebrity star, enabling some of our star stuck staff ( some times that included me) waiting at the landing of the steps leading to the Box. Our day was made if we could shake hands with the popular stars.

 

Though Grant had been provided an exclusive parking space, it was tough getting in and  out of  the parking area when the block busters were screened. At the end of every show there would be pandemonium both inside and outside the complex, with cars trying to enter or leave  the complex resulting in a big traffic jam on Anna Salai outside the complex. I had  to plan all my client. meetings keeping in mind this factor. In spite of all the planning, some times I would get stuck in the office unable to get out because of unexpected processions by political parties on Anna Salai.

 

I can never forget 2nd October,1975. The day the popular Congress veteran  K.Kamaraj died. There was a massive procession on Anna Salai accompanying the mortal remains of the popular leader which took  more than four hours to cross the Safire point.. While I could watch the procession from a vantage point in the building,  I could not leave the office until the road was cleared for traffic.

 

Watching fights for tickets was another source of entertainment for me. But one fight I wished I had not seen. One Sunday morning I was shocked  to see a fight on some  family issue by the warring sons of Mr H.V Shah, in the foyer. The heated arguments between two brothers led  to fisticuffs, watched by a motely crowd. When the old man tried to mediate, he was also roughed up. This public humiliation affected the old man very badly. I felt bad because the old man was a good soul who was also one of  my well wishers.

 

Within six years of my taking over the reigns of grant Madras the business had grown that I had to appoint more staff. Apart from the need for a bigger office space, the problems posed by the  theatre complex to  my clients who wanted to call on me at the office necessitated my moving out of the Safire Complex to another more spacious office on Greams Road in 1980. Though my day to day association  with the complex had ceased I continued to keep in touch with Appunni so that I could get tickets at Safire whenever I needed it.

 

The complex was acquired in 1994 by the local All India Anna Dravida Munnetra Kazhagam . which wanted to construct its new headquarters. The entire Safire complex was demolished, but AIADMK did not end up building its headquarters. 

 

Today the empty space where the Majestic Safire Complex stood looks forlorn, full of weed and wild plant growth and is  used by many as a public toilet. Every time I pass the area, I  am filled with nostalgia of the good times I had at the complex. I can never forget that it was at the Safire office complex  that the  seeds of my reputation as a rural specialist were sown.

Evolution of a writer/author

My new avatar as a writer/author post retirement started with the publication of my autobiography in 2009. The appreciation I got for my style of writing  encouraged me to start  writing on a  variety of topics dealing with day to day happenings in life.  I posted them on my blog and also  shared  the articles  among Face Book friends. My first article titled `Ubiquitous Velakkari ( maid servant)` appeared in the April 2011 issue of Eves Touch  followed by  an article in Madras Musings in its June,2011 issue. Both edited by the (late)  S.Muthiah who became   my mentor in my writing career. The defining moment came when my article based on my visit to 106 Divya Desams with Prabha  appeared in the Open Page of the Hindu in their issue dated 26th June,2011.The hundreds of response I got as mails, sms messages, telephone calls even from readers of Hindu living abroad made me realize that I have arrived as a writer. Since then writing has become an obsession with me.  My dream of becoming a regular columnist became a reality when Mr S.P.Ambrose, IAS (retd) the founder of Adyar Times(AT), the popular Community weekly published in Chennai asked me to write a fortnightly column for AT  titled `Rajan`s Random Reflections`. Thanks to the word restrictions imposed by AT  I perfected the art of limiting  my articles to a maximum of 600 words.   Going through my records for the last nine years  I find that I have 265 published articles  in dozens of publications and 65,000 Page views  on my blog. I don`t know if it is a big number but the record is encouraging.

While my writing on a variety of topics is a continuing habit, I was also active in bringing out more books. The second book after the publication of my autobiography was the book on Rural marketing with which I was associated for more than  35 years of my 45 years in advertising. It was published by  a Chennai based Publisher in 2013. I was very keen that my  books must deal with different genres of writing.  The  books that followed my book on Rural marketing reflects this dream; an autobiography,  experiences in an industry, short   essays,  history of an association and  short stories. My long standing dream of writing a novel has become a reality thanks to the pandemic and the forced stay at home.   Please await  a  formal announcement on this soon!

I am a person who likes to constantly challenge my self with new projects. Challenges bring out the best in me.  The next book project I have in mind is a translation job. I want to translate a popular Tamil novel or short story collections into English. Not decided yet about the choice. Will I be able  to do it as I will be joining the Octogenerians of this world next year. Only God has the answer  to that question as he  controls the time he has allotted for me in this janma!