To fantasize is to imagine something that you would like to happen. Another word for it is day dreaming.
`Day dreaming helps the mind unwind, connect the dots and get creative` says a report in a leading daily. The author of the report recommends that when children complain of boredom, instead of overloading them with all kinds of activities, give them time to daydream. When they have nothing to do they are likely to indulge in `day dreaming` about what they want to do in life , which is good for them . The same report also quotes Sabu Cyril, the well known Art director; “ Day dreaming helped make me what I am today”.
All of us have been fantasizing or day dreaming about something or the other right from our childhood.
Living in a chawl in Mumbai in my early years where 50 people shared two common toilets every morning ( what a nightmare!) I would dream of owning a home with toilets for every member of the family.Today I have a 6-bedroom independent home with seven toilets ( including the one located outside the house for servants)- The irony is that we now have only three members living in the house.
As an adolescent I would dream of cavorting with the beautiful actresses of the time. Later in college, I would imagine that any girl who talked to me nicely was in love with me – the number of one sided love affairs I had would have been a record. Ofcourse, like everyone else I was also in search of an ideal wife who would satisfy all the features and qualities I was looking for in my future partner. Since I could not find one on my own, I dutifully married a girl of my parents’ choice. Over a period of time she acquired all the qualities I wanted in my wife ( I don`t know if I satisfied all her expectations) and we became an ideal couple in the eyes of the society.
At seventy I dreamt of taking up `Vanaprastha` as prescribed by our Sastras and lead a carefree life without family responsibilities. I imagined that by doing so I would be allowing total freedom to my wife so that she could enjoy doing the things that she always wanted to do, without me breathing down her neck. The sudden departure of my wife from this world four years ago made me change my plans. Today I fantasize that I am still living with my wife; feeling her presence in every room and every object in the house she passionately looked after!
I find that age is no barrier for fantasizing. These days in my dreams I go back forty years in time and imagine eating all the mouthwatering dishes I enjoyed, indulge myself with drinks that made me extra spirited, travel to countries and places I have not yet visited, doing all the things that I know I cannot do because of my age and related health issues.
It is fun to indulge in day dreaming and go after such dreams , irrespective of your age. You will never get bored with life!