Tuesday, March 9, 2021

Mythili Seshadri – Will power matters in life!

( This is the original article in English written by me which has been translated into Tamil and featured in the `Women`s Day` special feature of Ladies Special, a Tamil monthly in their March,2021 issue)

I consider most of the Indian women as human dynamos.  The number of things they pack in a day`s work  is amazing. They work 24x7x365 days. There are no Sundays or holidays  for them. For those who do some jobs in addition to managing a home, the life is even tougher. There are millions of them in the world. What makes  60 years old Mythili Seshadri stand out in this crowd is her will power to do things she  enjoys doing in spite of a Liver  condition which calls for her to be extremely careful in her food habits, medicines that she can take  and also  the kind of activities she can undertake.

Right from her college days in Coimbatore, where she was born and brought up, she was inclined towards social service. She was actively involved both in National Service scheme ( NSS) and Community Social Service (CSS) which was to influence  her career choice later in life.  Her marriage at 24 took her to Bombay, where her husband a successful advertising professional was working. While she was brushing  up on English speaking skills,  she decided to get a B Ed from the Bombay Teachers Training College and qualify herself as a teacher.

` I was thrilled when I learnt that out of 1600 applicants, only 100 had been short listed and I was one of them` says Mythili.

Arrival of her son within two years of her marriage prevented her from taking up any teaching assignments in Mumbai. The family moved to Chennai  in 1988 where she was to realize many of her dreams over the years.  As a person who cannot sit at home idly , in her spare time she learnt Shorthand, Typing , Tailoring & Embroidery. It was in 1997, a friend influenced her to consider teaching special children. She  joined  Vidya Sagar , a school for special children in Chennai, as a volunteer in their Vocational Rehabilitation Unit.  Her formal training in Tailoring and Embroidery helped her being instrumental in starting the Tailoring unit  in Vidya Sagar. She taught the students to make draw string bags ( Surukku pai), scrunchies ( cloth rubber band), hand towels   to name a few. These were done using the scrap materials given by a boutique in the neighbor hood.

`I was delighted  when I found that some of the students I had trained were given jobs in a well known  Boutique, where they did well. But I also realized that being a mere volunteer, not an employee, you are not taken seriously by the management .  So I decided to get formal qualification as a special educator  by joining `Bala Vidyalaya` , a school for the hearing impaired,  and did  a One Year Diploma In Teaching Young Hearing  Impaired, a course which is  recognized by the `Rehabilitation Council of India`.

 Along the way she also completed two short term courses in Alternative and Augmentative Communication conducted by Vidya Sagar.  After working in Bala Vidyalaya for a couple of  years she decided to quit and started teaching language therapy to children with special needs at home. Her students also included children with additional disabilities like mental retardation, autism , cerebral palsey  besides being from different age groups. This one-on –one therapy  helped  children who cannot hear and speak to get integrated into mainstream schools. 

`It is tough because these children do not understand direct communication but respond to alternative method of teaching where you patiently take them  through several stages  using different props to make them understand things. The course also involved training the parents of such children  so that they can continue to practice the lessons at home. It is heartening , when, after two years of training they are ready to be integrated into main stream schools. That is the biggest satisfaction from the job I got.` However, since teaching such children necessitated speaking loudly she developed vocal chord problems, which posed the danger of Mythily losing her own ability to speak. So reluctantly she had to give up a career she loved so much.

This setback did not deter Mythili from pursuing other interests which helped her bring out the inherent creativity in her. She channelized her creative abilities by involving herself in making handicrafts and a variety of cloth bags, curtains etc.  Most of these items  were made from waste cloth and other waste materials thus furthering the concept of `Waste to wealth`. However she did not do it as a regular business but produced bags, curtains from old saris, wall hangings, plastic bag dispensers to name a few, based on specific demands from friends and relatives.

While she was busy  creating useful items from waste cloths, another friend introduced  her to the fascinating world of `Quilts` which again opened up opportunities for converting used cloths  into mattresses, table runners,  wall hangings etc. For this  she had to attend a training workshop run by `The Square Inch(TSI)`in  her neighbor hood before she could start working on the quilts. She even participated in the First International Quilt festival held in Chennai , in 2019 where her quilt titled `Pinwheel in a square inch` was displayed. It was made using more than 5000 cloth pieces, each  measuring  one square inch.

When I asked her about the process of making a quilt she said, ` I first think of an idea,  convert the idea into a picture/drawing, then look for materials to make the quilt and then get into action. I used an old saree to create a quilt to cover the Diwan set in my home. Similarly I made curtains out of old cloth materials. Every quilt is like a piece of art. I thoroughly enjoy making them` says Mythili. She is currently active in the informal group of quilt makers in Chennai.

Mythili is quite excited  to talk about how a childhood dream of becoming a dancer came true when she was in her early fifties.  Once  she was invited to participate in a group dance by the Rotary Club in which her husband is  a member. Her inability to  coordinate her foot movements  made her lose  the  opportunity to dance . She felt miserable. Around that time she came to know about  a dance school in her neighbor hood which was providing dance training for senior citizens- ranging in age from 5o to 80. She promptly enrolled herself in the classes and learnt to dance reasonably well. She was a part of the group from the school which was invited to perform at temple & other festivals in the city.

` I even participated  in a group dance organized by my Rotary Club, reassuring myself that I can also dance.`

Mythili did all the above while busy bringing up her son & daughter  who are both married and blessed her with four lovely  grand children. Most  interesting aspect of her life is the fact that she never appointed the ubiquitous Velaikari ( maid servant), not even a part time one,  to help her  with some of the household chores. Where did she get the energy for this? Her reply sums up the practical woman that she is: `I did not have any maid servant all these years because, I realized  early that  dependence on them  can  cause unnecessary  anxieties and tensions . My day is not affected by the Idiosyncrasies of a maid. With strong will power as my strength  I have been managing the home and  my outside interests. Having a two wheeler of my own has also helped me  in being independent  to  move around  on assignments.`

Mythili also gives full credit to her supportive  husband for encouraging her to do whatever she enjoys doing.  As they say there is always a man behind a successful woman and vice versa!

( Note: Mythili is my sister in law)

 

 

 

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