I am writing this piece on the last day of 2013, when the rest of the world will be planning to ring out the old and ring in the New Year! While trying to do the same I realized that 2013 has been both a turbulent and an eventful year in my life! A Year filled with both sad and happy moments for me. I thought I will share those moments with my readers!
Let me start with the sad events so that I can end this piece on a happier note!
To begin with I lost Prabha my dear wife of 40 years to the deadly crab which had started eating into her lungs, on 5th January this year. Though we all knew that she had limited time in this world when we discovered that she was suffering from cancer seven months earlier , it was still a tremendous loss for the whole family. While I was reconciling to live a life without my life partner, I had a couple of nasty falls at home which I survived with minor bruises. And two accidents on two successive days– one in which I was thrown off balance by the spring door of the dickey of the Volvo Bus in which I was travelling from Poona to Mumbai and another involving the car in which I was travelling in Mumbai , where I had gone for my book launch in November. While the car was badly damaged I survived both the accidents without even a bruise!
When I was hoping that I have had enough of the bad tidings for 2013, God thought otherwise! I suffered a heart attack in the early hours of 18th December to discover later that I had two blocks- one 95% and another 60 %. On the advice of the doctor, the family agreed to get an angioplasty done to clear the 95% block and place a stent to ensure that I return to normal life fast.( They left the other block untouched hoping to clear it with medicines ). I am now eligible to become a member of the `Stent`Club`! My friend Indu Chandhok of the Motor Sports fame refers to people who have had by-pass surgery as members of the `Zippers club`- because they all have a vertical zipper like scar on their chests after the operation. Fortunately the members of the `Stent` club have nothing to show off!
I spent a week in the Hospital- two days in the ICU and five days in a private room.(I promise you an interesting article on my experiences as a patient in the hospital later)
When I was discharged I was told to take complete rest, atleast for a week. But it was not to be. Because immediately after my return home, we got busy with the ritutals connected with Prabha`s first death anniversary & my plans for a dream event on 29th December, where we had decided to celebrate Prabha`s memory, and all that she stood for, rather than mourning her absence. Though I had done all the meticulous planning for the event and handed over charge of executing the event to my family members, the tension and anxiety continued, causing anxious moments to my near and dear ones. Now that the programme is over, all my tensions are behind me and having rested well for 36 hours I feel reasonably recharged and hope to be back in action in the next ten days. But with the proviso that I must keep my distance from fried stuff in any form- be it the `Murukkus & Thattais ` from Grand Sweets (which I used to start munching from early mornings) or the variety of starters that go with a dinner at a restaurant/Club or at parties - like the bondas, bajjies, samosas & fried cocktail idlies not to mention the French fries, cheese kurkures etc. I am yet to get a clearance from my doctor about having the two `Chotas` of my favourite drink that used to cheer me up three evenings a week!
Now let me share with you some good tidings in my life during the outgoing year. You may be aware of some of them. But still let me record them for posterity. My second book titled `Don`t Flirt with Rural Marketing` - the Handbook on Rural Marketing based on my experience of dealing with rural marketing for nearly 40 years came off the Press in early October this year and was formally launched in Mumbai on 11th November at the Cross Word book stall in Kemp`s corner. The Chennai launch happened on 6th December under the auspices of Advertising Club Madras. The Delhi launch is scheduled for 17th Januray,2014 as a part of the Flame Awards function of Rural Marketing Association of India (RMAI) of which I was a founder President for four years.
The good news is that based on the extensive media and word of mouth publicity, the book is selling well. The publisher tells me that he has already placed orders for a reprint .
As you all know since the publication of my autobiography,`Courage My Companion` I started writing articles on a variety of topics and circulating them among my friends and relatives and also uploading them on my blog. A few have been published by local media. Encouraged by the positive response to my style of writing and goaded by a few friends, I decided to bring out a book containing 70 of my articles. The book tiltled `This & That…Then & Now` , my third book in four years, is just off the Press and is awaiting a formal launch sometime soon. I must thank my Publisher Srinivasamurthy of Productivity & Quality Publishing for publishing all my three books.
After all the ups & downs I am happy that the year has ended well for me, with the grand function that the family put up to commemorate Prabha` memory, on 29th December. A dream event for which I was planning since Prabha`s demise.
Friends who visited me, days or weeks after Prabha`s demise , used to console me - `Don`t worry- time is a great healer. You will slowly get over the grief & learn to forget her & get used to a life without a wife!`
While I had no choice but to live without the company of my dear wife during the last one year, I decided that I will not forget, easily, a person who had been an integral part of my life. A person whom I had begun to love deeply , in the last couple of decades!
While I do miss her very badly, (especially during the last ten days recovering from a heart attack, lying alone on my bed), I decided to take up activities which will perpetuate her memory and provide an inspiration to talented women. Women who don’t have family support or the resources to bring out their talents in the open-and give them the message that age is no barrier for pursuing their creative passions, because Prabha was an outstanding example of such a person. Essentially a shy, introverted and highly domesticated person in her early years she blossomed into an accomplished writer, social activist and much more -after the age of 37. In many ways she was a role model for women. I am sure many such women with self or family imposed limitations are languishing in our society and I want them to come out of their shells to pursue their passions and live a fulfilling life.
When I set about thinking of what I could do to help such women in my own small way I conceived the idea of starting Prabha Rajan Talent Foundation,(PRTF for short), an informal non registered body without a bank account , depending solely on contributions from the Rajan family. The basic objective of PRTF is to encourage young women from poor families in developing their talents in the area of creative writing or drawing.
In the first year of its operations PRTF has supported five budding female writers by co-sponsoring the printing of their books published by Manimekalai Prasuram, a leading Publishing House in Chennai. A Prabha Rajan memorial short story competition in Tamil was conducted by Kalaimagal, the 80 year old Tamil monthly known for its literary excellence. Another Essay contest in Prabha`s memory was conducted by Ladies Special- a popular ladies monthly in Tamil. Cash Prizes for the three winners in both the competitions sponsored by PRTF were distributed to the winners at the Function on 29th December.
A deserving girl student from St.Raphael school received a Scholarship for undergoing training in Computer Graphics & animation at my Rotary Club meeting. Many more such ideas to encourage talented, young and deserving girls are in the pipeline.
As you all know Prabha was an accomplished writer of short stories in Tamil. She has two books –collection of her stories- Kadambam & Thayumanaval to her credit. Unfortunately her own children & grand children cannot read Tamil and appreciate Prabha`s enormous talent for writing. To correct this situation and also to reach Prabha`s stories to a larger audience I decided to bring out a book containing her select short stories in English. I am grateful to Dr.Geetha Jayaram, a family friend, who volunteered to translate the stories into English. And she has done it very well. Manimekalai Prasuram, who published Thayumanaval in a record time have also brought out the English book titled `Shyama and other stories` in record time thanks to Ravi Tamilvanan. The book was officially released on 29th December before an enlightened audience of 200 people, by well known dignitaries, at TAG Centre, Chennai, owned by my dear friend and ever helpful R.T.Chari. `Shyama` happened to be the third book by Prabha in three years. Six books in all from Rajan family in four years! Could that be a record for a family?
The most heartening part of the function on 29th December, was the scintillating performance of my twelve year old grand daughter Utthara, singing Carnatic music for 45 minutes accompanied by another teenager Mridangist, Subramanian. Her lovely voice and the range she displayed coupled with the confidence with which she gave the performance stole the hearts of the audience. As I mentioned in my speech at the function ( which was read out by my brother Seshadri, as I felt I did not have the stamina), I pray God that Uthara continues to work hard to be able to give enthralling performances in all the leading Sabhas of the city, in the future! She made the whole family proud that evening!
Let me sign off this rather long article on that Happy note. Since God has given me a new lease of life, you will continue to receive my thoughts on a variety of topics, until how long, I don`t know!
I take this opportunity to wish every one of you, my dear readers, a very Happy & Prosperous New Year!
All the Best & God Bless!